My wife and I have had one of the most carefully planned pregnancies that you could have. We have researched everything carefully. We have read books on everything from changing diapers to raising a toddler.

We are probably set for the next few years, in fact. We have consulted experts, prepared the nursery, and even played classical music to the kid in the womb. One thing we could not agree on or figure out, however, was a newborn baby name.

There are just too many new born baby names, and each of us want a different one. We have decided that this is going to be our only child, so we can't compromise and take turns coming up with names for babies. We have looked up the meanings of names for newborn babies until we were blue in the face.

We've come up with boys names, girls names, dramatic names, staid names. What it comes down to is the fact that we will not be able to decide until after we have the baby.

I don't know why, but somehow this makes me feel like a bad father. I know that newborn baby names are not that big a deal – you really can't figure out what the perfect name is, and you have to go with your instincts. Nonetheless, I feel like we should have everything, including the new born baby names, planned out before the baby is actually born.

Having to wait to come up with new born baby names seems like irresponsible parenting. It is almost like having a kid without first starting a college account – it is something that you should never do, something that shows bad planning.

I almost burst into tears over the new born baby names deadlock the other day. I think that the stress of having my first kid is getting to me finally. I went out for a beer with one of my friends and talked it over with them. He told me that him and his wife had the same problem with newborn baby names. I never would have guessed it, to be honest.

You see, they are two of the most together people that I know. They plan out literally everything. They can't  get out of bed without making a list of the things that they have to do. To find out that they too had problems with new born baby names was quite encouraging.  It showed me that having a new kid is hard for everyone.